1. I used to think I was a flake. Now I know that people called me that because they couldn’t handle my constant creativity. Now I revel in my flakiness: hug strangers, hand out kisses on valentine’s day, break out dancing in the aisles of the lumber store.
2. I used to think my weaknesses defined me. I hid when I was sad or ashamed. Now I know that it is my strengths that define me. When I dwell in my strengths, I lift everyone around me. The weaknesses are there, yes, but they just aren’t that important!
3. I used to think my periods of depression were unhealthy. Now I know that as a woman, I naturally flow through periods of introspection and vision, periods of action and joy. When I feel sad, I call a friend instead of hiding. When I feel tired I go inside and dream.
4. I used to think that not having a career or a car or a title or insurance meant I was not successful. Then I realized I had been living from one belief system and defining success by another. By my beliefs, I am a raging success. I have wonderful friends, healthy independent children, a flexible mind, and I walk lightly on the earth helping wherever I can. Also, I make great kombucha.
5. I used to think I could make the world better by sacrificing myself. I thought if I kept my head down and worked tirelessly for others, I would be a good person. Now I know that a good person is lit up, radiant, joyful, inspired. A good person is not drained and self-sacrificing. You can never be hungry enough to feed another person. It doesn’t work that way.
6. I used to think that I had to be an expert before I could start anything. Now I know that if I feel a need, I can just create something to fill it. I don’t have to wait for anyone’s permission; I don’t have to be the best in the world, just good enough to do what needs to be done. Whoa! Did you guys know this??
7. I used to think that my problems were awful mistakes that I had to put behind me. Now I know that people living expansive lives do not have small problems. They have…expansive problems. We are given huge problems so that we can get over them and then help others with their huge problems. I have learned that the very things that tear me up, bring me to the boil, and devastate me are my keys to helping others. My experience of marriage to a tyrant enables me to guide other women out of marriages to tyrants. My fury at prejudice against mothers inspires me to support mothers in staying free, wild, and creative. My experience of extreme poverty and deprivation helps me fight poverty and the mentality of scarcity wherever it crops up.
8. I used to think that I was one fish struggling upstream alone. Now I know that there are many of us all swimming together, and that I am the fish, the water, the rocks, all of it. There is more going through me than I know. When I can step back and remember this, re-center myself in my purpose as an instrument of expression and evolution, all is right with the world.
- Nine of the Best Ways to Boost Creative Thinking (lifehacker.com)