New stories


1.  I used to think I was a flake.  Now I know that people called me that because they couldn’t handle my constant creativity.  Now I revel in my flakiness: hug strangers, hand out kisses on valentine’s day, break out dancing in the aisles of the lumber store.

2. I used to think my weaknesses defined me. I hid when I was sad or ashamed.  Now I know that it is my strengths that define me.  When I dwell in my strengths, I lift everyone around me. The weaknesses are there, yes, but they just aren’t that important!

3. I used to think my periods of depression were unhealthy.  Now I know that as a woman, I naturally flow through periods of introspection and vision, periods of action and joy.  When I feel sad, I call a friend instead of hiding. When I feel tired I go inside and dream.

4. I used to think that not having a career or a car or a title or insurance meant I was not successful. Then I realized I had been living from one belief system and defining success by another.  By my beliefs, I am a raging success.  I have wonderful friends, healthy independent children, a flexible mind, and I walk lightly on the earth helping wherever I can. Also, I make great kombucha.

5. I used to think I could make the world better by sacrificing myself.  I thought if I kept my head down and worked tirelessly for others, I would be a good person.  Now I know that a good person is lit up, radiant, joyful, inspired.  A good person is not drained and self-sacrificing. You can never be hungry enough to feed another person.  It doesn’t work that way.

6. I used to think that I had to be an expert before I could start anything. Now I know that if I feel a need, I can just create something to fill it.   I don’t have to wait for anyone’s permission; I don’t have to be the best in the world, just good enough to do what needs to be done. Whoa! Did you guys know this??

7. I used to think that my problems were awful mistakes that I had to put behind me.  Now I know that people living expansive lives do not have small problems.  They have…expansive problems.  We are given huge problems so that we can get over them and then help others with their huge problems.  I have learned that the very things that tear me up, bring me to the boil, and devastate me are my keys to helping others. My experience of marriage to a tyrant enables me to guide other women out of marriages to tyrants.  My fury at prejudice against mothers inspires me to support mothers in staying free, wild, and creative. My experience of extreme poverty and deprivation helps me fight poverty and the mentality of scarcity wherever it crops up.

8. I used to think that I was one fish struggling upstream alone.  Now I know that there are many of us all swimming together, and that I am the fish, the water, the rocks, all of it.  There is more going through me than I know. When I can step back and remember this, re-center myself in my purpose as an instrument of expression and evolution, all is right with the world.



March 16, 2013 · 1:59 am

19 responses to “New stories

  1. These are important points… something we all need a little refresher on from time to time! Thanks for these positive thoughts!

  2. maureenoleary

    Perfect. Everything in this list is so personal yet so universal at the same time. Thank you so much.

    • thank you Maureen! i wonder if these are lessons we all learn in our own time…i know people have been saying these things to me for years and i couldn’t hear them. so many things have shifted this past year.

  3. So drugged great Lissa! Love you

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  4. When you step back from the treadmill of modern life and allow yourself a bit of breathing space you would be amazed at how wonderful it is off that treadmill. Steve and I are penniless student hippies. We choose to live simply so that we can make ends meet and we can learn about the world around us. We choose to plant gardens and grow food and let our minds go where they will because that’s what we should be doing. So many people think that mainstream is the only way…stepping off the exhaustive requirements for conformity and adhering to the consumerism that keeps it all knitted together is enough to cripple most of us. We need to learn to turn our backs on it and go hunting for what works for us. Without failure there are no opportunities to learn and the same thing could be said about depression…we quantify it as something to be avoided and don’t realise that our depth of happiness needs a foil and sadness is that foil. Glad you stepped off that treadmill and set bare foot on the earth 🙂 Feels good doesn’t it? 🙂

  5. Meghan

    Thank you, Lissa! It’s good to hear that I’m not alone!

  6. I love this post ~ Fantastic 🙂

  7. Ah, this post brought tears to my eyes! At only 25, the tears are here because it gives me such faith that these lessons I see that I am in the process of learning, and have been for a little while, can slowly happen over all the years to come – there’s no mega rush! And also this post gave me such reassurance that we all are just so similar – we can sit and worry and feel so isolated with it, yet everyone else has their new stories that they are creating too, just in different contexts. And then there are people like you, who have created new stories in contexts (bar a couple) that i can see i’m creating mine! Thank you for sharing. Love. xx

    • yes, that is so important…knowing that there is no rush, that life is not a sprint. i’ve hurt myself so badly by forgetting that. and you are so right, we are not alone, all so similar in our joy and heartbreak, and when i am just brave enough to unburden my heart i learn that all over again. thank you so much for your story.

  8. Nice introspection. It takes many a lifetime to get to this point of honesty with themselves not realizing that we are all swimming in the same stream of life.

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