To all my beloved male readers (if, indeed, there are any?)—will you please help me out?
Next week, our women’s joy circle is opening to men. This is scary for me.
I have loved men, I have deeply bonded with men, I have birthed men, but the sacred masculine still remains mysterious and a bit forbidding to me.
I believe that at the holy core of masculine experience is a deep faith and desire to serve that is staggering in its strength and purity. I believe this because I have seen it again and again, and it leaves me breathless.
So why is it that when women gather to talk about men, the traits that we most often complain about are the faithlessness, the egocentrism of our partners and lovers?
The work I have done with women—with myself—is to slowly regain the inner equilibrium of the divine feminine. This equilibrium expresses itself as a beautiful self-sufficiency and joyful caretaking. I cannot do this work with men, because I do not know what it is to be a man.
But I can open our circle to men, with love, and show them what we have done. And we can share our self-sufficiency, our joyful caretaking, our carefully tended well of divine femininity, in hopes of inspiring an emergence of that soaring, sacred masculine that weakens the knees and staggers the breath.
Or maybe there will be a lot of awkward silences and giggling. This is why I need your help.
In the comments below, will you do the human race a solid and answer the following questions? (And female readers, will you pass these on to the men in your lives? I really, really, desire some answers before next Monday!)
1. What makes you feel comfortable and safe around women?
2. What do you most fear/dislike about women?
3. If you could ask a woman any question without fear of offending her, what would it be?
4. What is your deepest wish for the women in your life?
5. What do you most appreciate about women?
If you don’t want to answer these questions in the comments, you can also answer them anonymously by taking this survey: PLEASE TAKE THIS SURVEY!
Thank you, so much, for your honesty and bravery! Next week I’ll write how it all went, and spill some juicy secrets, and hopefully answer some of your questions. In closing, the sexiest appreciation of men I’ve ever heard.
- in praise of men (truebeautyalways.com)
- ‘The Divine Masculine’ (psipsinasays.wordpress.com)
7 responses to “calling all men!”
Thank you so much to the men who have been filling out the survey! It is much appreciated, and eye-opening for sure. You are wonderful.
guys, this is seriously beautiful stuff. wow.
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What a great idea! The great divide between men and women is always going to be a bit of a chasm but if we are all willing to broach that chasm with a ricketty bridge, and some of us are willing to at least step foot on that bridge then there is hope! 🙂
hear hear!! here’s to the rickety bridge…some of the responses I’ve gotten on the survey have brought tears to my eyes. I feel a lot of trepidation about Monday, but a lot of joy and anticipation too.
“Let the adventure…begin!”…I decided to ask Steve your questions but you know how the “what makes you uncomfortable around women” question (a.k.a. the very first question part 2?) well he was uncomfortable about the question! So I figured he wasn’t quite ready to take part in your survey :). I love that you got some great answers and hope that Monday brings some amazing awakening experiences and that everyone leaves more enlightened than when they went :). Make sure to take plenty of food…if anything, food can salve all kinds of things (especially mens bellies 😉 )
Did the survey online – very nice it was
thank you! i really appreciate it. whew. already making rosewater-mascarpone for the stuffed dates & brewing up some sour cherry kombucha for tomorrow’s meeting…here we gooooo!